Family Styles

[Deb Ingino]

Every family has their own 'style'.

The way we dress.

The food we eat.

The way we like to have fun.

 

But there is one thing that is common in all families and that is this, at one time or another the child we so connected with when they were young grows up and the rules change.

 

Oh sure we know they were going to change.

And yes we even recognized it as they were changing but one day we wake up and that little girl or guy are growing up and we feel a bit disconnected from them.

 

But there are things you can do.

 

For one, keep the dialogue going.  Be interested in the things they do and love.  Let them see that you are their best supporter.  

 

Give them an opportunity to take on a responsibility in the family but one that is in their STRENGTHS ZONE.  One that uses the gifts and talents they have in a way that provides them with a feeling of success as they complete it.

 

Tell them how much you admire their strengths and brainstorm with them on ways they could be used in the future.  Who knows, the dreaming you do with them today could very well be the reality tomorrow.

 

Learn how they're wired.

 

Learn how you're wired.

 

Connect through the mutual interest or through the way your styles compliment each other.

 

So tell me, what are your child's strengths?